Thanks Techstyle, feel better knowing I'm not on my own with this issue!!
OK, here are the log files from the server and client:
Server auth.log:
Oct 19 08:43:18 dcerouter pluto[10355]: packet from 192.168.80.133:500: ignoring unknown Vendor ID payload [4f45755c645c6a795c5c6170]
Oct 19 08:43:18 dcerouter pluto[10355]: packet from 192.168.80.133:500: received Vendor ID payload [Dead Peer Detection]
Oct 19 08:43:18 dcerouter pluto[10355]: packet from 192.168.80.133:500: received Vendor ID payload [RFC 3947] method set to=109
Oct 19 08:43:18 dcerouter pluto[10355]: packet from 192.168.80.133:500: received Vendor ID payload [draft-ietf-ipsec-nat-t-ike-03] meth=108, but already using method 109
Oct 19 08:43:18 dcerouter pluto[10355]: packet from 192.168.80.133:500: received Vendor ID payload [draft-ietf-ipsec-nat-t-ike-02_n] meth=106, but already using method 109
Oct 19 08:43:18 dcerouter pluto[10355]: packet from 192.168.80.133:500: received Vendor ID payload [draft-ietf-ipsec-nat-t-ike-02] meth=107, but already using method 109
Oct 19 08:43:18 dcerouter pluto[10355]: packet from 192.168.80.133:500: received Vendor ID payload [draft-ietf-ipsec-nat-t-ike-00]
Oct 19 08:43:18 dcerouter pluto[10355]: packet from 192.168.80.133:500: initial Main Mode message received on 192.168.80.1:500 but no connection has been authorized with policy=PSK
Client auth.log:
Oct 19 10:30:20 rob-laptop pluto[14518]: shutting down
Oct 19 10:30:20 rob-laptop pluto[14518]: forgetting secrets
Oct 19 10:30:20 rob-laptop pluto[14518]: "Home": deleting connection
Oct 19 10:30:20 rob-laptop pluto[14518]: "Home" #2: deleting state (STATE_MAIN_I1)
Oct 19 10:30:20 rob-laptop pluto[14518]: shutting down interface lo/lo ::1:500
Oct 19 10:30:20 rob-laptop pluto[14518]: shutting down interface lo/lo 127.0.0.1:4500
Oct 19 10:30:20 rob-laptop pluto[14518]: shutting down interface lo/lo 127.0.0.1:500
Oct 19 10:30:20 rob-laptop pluto[14518]: shutting down interface eth1/eth1 192.168.80.133:4500
Oct 19 10:30:20 rob-laptop pluto[14518]: shutting down interface eth1/eth1 192.168.80.133:500
Oct 19 10:30:20 rob-laptop pluto[14527]: pluto_crypto_helper: helper (0) is normal exiting
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop ipsec__plutorun: Starting Pluto subsystem...
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: Starting Pluto (Openswan Version 2.6.37; Vendor ID OEu\134d\134jy\134\134ap) pid:14807
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: LEAK_DETECTIVE support [disabled]
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: OCF support for IKE [disabled]
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: SAref support [disabled]: Protocol not available
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: SAbind support [disabled]: Protocol not available
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: NSS support [disabled]
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: HAVE_STATSD notification support not compiled in
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: Setting NAT-Traversal port-4500 floating to on
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: port floating activation criteria nat_t=1/port_float=1
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: NAT-Traversal support [enabled]
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: using /dev/urandom as source of random entropy
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: ike_alg_register_enc(): Activating OAKLEY_AES_CBC: Ok (ret=0)
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: starting up 1 cryptographic helpers
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: started helper pid=14827 (fd:6)
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: Using Linux 2.6 IPsec interface code on 3.2.0-32-generic (experimental code)
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14827]: using /dev/urandom as source of random entropy
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: ike_alg_register_enc(): Activating aes_ccm_8: Ok (ret=0)
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: ike_alg_add(): ERROR: Algorithm already exists
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: ike_alg_register_enc(): Activating aes_ccm_12: FAILED (ret=-17)
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: ike_alg_add(): ERROR: Algorithm already exists
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: ike_alg_register_enc(): Activating aes_ccm_16: FAILED (ret=-17)
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: ike_alg_add(): ERROR: Algorithm already exists
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: ike_alg_register_enc(): Activating aes_gcm_8: FAILED (ret=-17)
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: ike_alg_add(): ERROR: Algorithm already exists
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: ike_alg_register_enc(): Activating aes_gcm_12: FAILED (ret=-17)
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: ike_alg_add(): ERROR: Algorithm already exists
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: ike_alg_register_enc(): Activating aes_gcm_16: FAILED (ret=-17)
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: Changed path to directory '/etc/ipsec.d/cacerts'
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: Changed path to directory '/etc/ipsec.d/aacerts'
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: Changed path to directory '/etc/ipsec.d/ocspcerts'
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: Changing to directory '/etc/ipsec.d/crls'
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: Warning: empty directory
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: added connection description "Home"
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: listening for IKE messages
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: adding interface eth1/eth1 192.168.80.133:500
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: adding interface eth1/eth1 192.168.80.133:4500
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: adding interface lo/lo 127.0.0.1:500
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: adding interface lo/lo 127.0.0.1:4500
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: adding interface lo/lo ::1:500
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: loading secrets from "/etc/ipsec.secrets"
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: listening for IKE messages
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: forgetting secrets
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: loading secrets from "/etc/ipsec.secrets"
Oct 19 10:30:22 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: "Home" #1: initiating Main Mode
Oct 19 10:31:32 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: "Home" #1: max number of retransmissions (2) reached STATE_MAIN_I1. No response (or no acceptable response) to our first IKE message
Oct 19 10:31:32 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: "Home" #1: starting keying attempt 2 of at most 3, but releasing whack
Oct 19 10:31:32 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: "Home" #2: initiating Main Mode to replace #1
Oct 19 10:32:42 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: "Home" #2: max number of retransmissions (2) reached STATE_MAIN_I1. No response (or no acceptable response) to our first IKE message
Oct 19 10:32:42 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: "Home" #2: starting keying attempt 3 of at most 3
Oct 19 10:32:42 rob-laptop pluto[14807]: "Home" #3: initiating Main Mode to replace #2
Client syslog:
Oct 19 08:43:15 rob-laptop L2tpIPsecVpnControlDaemon: Opening client connection
Oct 19 08:43:15 rob-laptop L2tpIPsecVpnControlDaemon: Executing command ipsec setup stop
Oct 19 08:43:15 rob-laptop ipsec_setup: Stopping Openswan IPsec...
Oct 19 08:43:17 rob-laptop kernel: [ 1105.812134] NET: Unregistered protocol family 15
Oct 19 08:43:17 rob-laptop ipsec_setup: ...Openswan IPsec stopped
Oct 19 08:43:17 rob-laptop L2tpIPsecVpnControlDaemon: Command ipsec setup stop finished with exit code 0
Oct 19 08:43:17 rob-laptop L2tpIPsecVpnControlDaemon: Executing command invoke-rc.d xl2tpd stop
Oct 19 08:43:17 rob-laptop L2tpIPsecVpnControlDaemon: Command invoke-rc.d xl2tpd stop finished with exit code 0
Oct 19 08:43:17 rob-laptop L2tpIPsecVpnControlDaemon: Opening client connection
Oct 19 08:43:17 rob-laptop L2tpIPsecVpnControlDaemon: Executing command ipsec setup start
Oct 19 08:43:17 rob-laptop L2tpIPsecVpnControlDaemon: Closing client connection
Oct 19 08:43:17 rob-laptop xl2tpd[3596]: death_handler: Fatal signal 15 received
Oct 19 08:43:17 rob-laptop kernel: [ 1106.163206] NET: Registered protocol family 15
Oct 19 08:43:17 rob-laptop ipsec_setup: Starting Openswan IPsec U2.6.37/K3.2.0-32-generic...
Oct 19 08:43:17 rob-laptop ipsec_setup: Using NETKEY(XFRM) stack
Oct 19 08:43:17 rob-laptop kernel: [ 1106.515942] Initializing XFRM netlink socket
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop kernel: [ 1106.557560] padlock_sha: VIA PadLock Hash Engine not detected.
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop kernel: [ 1106.605526] Intel AES-NI instructions are not detected.
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop kernel: [ 1106.655817] Intel AES-NI instructions are not detected.
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop ipsec_setup: ...Openswan IPsec started
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop L2tpIPsecVpnControlDaemon: Command ipsec setup start finished with exit code 0
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop L2tpIPsecVpnControlDaemon: Executing command invoke-rc.d xl2tpd start
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop xl2tpd[11410]: setsockopt recvref[30]: Protocol not available
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop xl2tpd[11410]: This binary does not support kernel L2TP.
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop xl2tpd[11411]: xl2tpd version xl2tpd-1.3.1 started on rob-laptop PID:11411
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop xl2tpd[11411]: Written by Mark Spencer, Copyright (C) 1998, Adtran, Inc.
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop xl2tpd[11411]: Forked by Scott Balmos and David Stipp, (C) 2001
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop xl2tpd[11411]: Inherited by Jeff McAdams, (C) 2002
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop xl2tpd[11411]: Forked again by Xelerance (www.xelerance.com) (C) 2006
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop xl2tpd[11411]: Listening on IP address 0.0.0.0, port 1701
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop L2tpIPsecVpnControlDaemon: Command invoke-rc.d xl2tpd start finished with exit code 0
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop pluto: adjusting ipsec.d to /etc/ipsec.d
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop ipsec__plutorun: adjusting ipsec.d to /etc/ipsec.d
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop ipsec__plutorun: 002 added connection description "Home"
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop L2tpIPsecVpnControlDaemon: Executing command ipsec auto --ready
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop L2tpIPsecVpnControlDaemon: Command ipsec auto --ready finished with exit code 0
Oct 19 08:43:18 rob-laptop L2tpIPsecVpnControlDaemon: Executing command ipsec auto --up Home
Oct 19 08:44:28 rob-laptop L2tpIPsecVpnControlDaemon: Command ipsec auto --up Home finished with exit code 0
Oct 19 08:44:28 rob-laptop L2tpIPsecVpnControlDaemon: Closing client connection