now I have got a little time for looking into it again
I found out that the needed dshowserver parts where never compiled ! So that is the reason for not working
So now I did two things and now dshowserver is mentioned in "trunk/ubuntu/xine-lib-18.104.22.168/src/libxinevdec/Makefile" - before it was not which is bad news
1. I added a newline to "trunk/ubuntu/xine-lib-22.214.171.124/src/libxinevdec/Makefile.am" at the end.
2. I did a "make clean" in "trunk/ubuntu/xine-lib-126.96.36.199" before i did "./configure"
I think it is the second thing (make clean) that is needed and have changed the wiki, but I can't try again this time
So maybe someone else can ?