just wanted to give a update,
sadly my core died, i wanted to swap the gt220 for a ati-card wich i had somewhere laying around,
the ati-card slipped through my fingers and landed on my mainboard and broke it.
the good news is, now i have to get another mainboard
i will get one without onboard graphics
i was going to get another mainboard anyway because after roughfly 6 weeks of trying,
dispite all the good suggestions and help from you all,
i wasn't able to get it working (wich was very frustrating),
a big thanks to everyone who posted their suggestions and helped me!
(i learned a lot from it)
i will post my new setup when i get it up and running
if someone has a suggestions for a good AM3 mainboard, please let me know.